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Welcome to Your NVR Practice Journey!

Structure of the Certificate in NVR Practice

Part 1 - Foundation Training In NVR

Welcome and overview

The basis of your parental strength

Module 1 - Self-Control

Introduction

The 2 types of clashes 

Symmetrical escalation live demonstration 

Complementary escalation 

Recognising our own patterns of escalation

The 2 kinds of escalation 

Learning Objectives For The 5 Principles

Priciple 1: You cannot control the child

Why this shift changes all interactions

Quiz

Principle 2: Strike When The Iron Is Cold

Principle 3: Your role is not to win, your role is to persist

Principle 4: The Basket exercise 

Principle 5: Mistakes are inevitable but can be corrected

The 5 principles of Self-Control

The 5 Principles in action: Learning Through Escalated Scenarios

Complementary Escalation 

A symmetrical escalation 

Haim Omer's reaction to the scenario

Kathelijne Van Dongen's reaction to the scenario

Practical application of the 5 principles 

Action exercise 

Practice 

Module 1 - Exercises

Self-Control is contagious 

Summary

Congratulations 

Module 1 - Summary

Introduction from Kathelijne Van Dongen

Haim Omer introduction

Module 2 - Reconciliation

Examples of typical reconciliation gestures

The good child album

Do not expect immediate results 

Reconciliation in practice 

Reconciliation in action

Why trauma plays a role in your relationship with your child

the trauma effect on the parent child relationship

Our stories that affect our here and now relationships

What children say 

Trauma and Reconnection

Module 2 - Summary

Welcome 

Module 3 - Supporters

The Religion Of Privacy

Parental self-assessment – The Isolation Trap

Self-Assessment 

The Solution to The Isolation Trap

The Isolation Trap

A moment to reflect

I do not want my child to experience harmful shame

Overcoming the parent's shame

The fear of appearing weak

Concerns about the child's reaction

The child will hate me forever

Fear of the child breaking down

Fear the child will run away

Overcoming our objections to support

We have no supporters 

The school

Child’s friends and their parents 

Understanding the supporters role

How to choose a helpful supporter 

Finding supporters 

The parents Tribe 

Adolescents often listen better to supporters

Messages 

Using supporters

Module 4 - Parental Presence

What is Erasure?

How erasure often happens 

The Shift to Presence

Developing Presence 1

Developing Presence 2

Developing Presence 3

Shift from Erasure to Parental Presence 

What is the Announcement?

How to prepare for the announcement

Planning for the child’s reaction 

What happens after the announcement? 

Announcement in action - The problematic situation

Delivering and managing the announcement - in action

Putting the announcement into action with your child

The announcement 

The Sit In 

How to measure the success of the Sit-In

Evaluating your behaviour in the sit in

What to avoid 

Child runs away

Maintaining the initiative 

The Sit-In - Live demonstration

Putting the Sit-in into action

Self-evaluation after a sit-in

Preparing for a physical outburst during the sit-in

Preparing for the possibility that the child will run away from the sit-in

The Sit-In

Increasing Presence in the care setting 

Erasure in the face of violence 

Using presence to reduce violence

Announcement with looked after children

Sit-In in a care home 

Looked after children 

Summary of Announcement and Sit-In

Introduction 

Research in Vigilant Care

Overview 

Differences between spying and Vigilant Care

3 Levels of vigilant care

The nuts and bolts of Vigilant Care

Stepping up open attention 

Open attention assessment 

Getting to know your child's friends

Developing a healthy dialogue with your child

Level 1 - Open Attention 

Open Attention in the Care Sector

Open Attention in the Care Setting 

Moving from open attention to focussed attention 

The difference between healthy trust and blind trust

Using focussed attention to support the school

Level 2 - Focused attention 

Unilateral actions

Preparing for the telephone round

Carrying out the telephone round. 

Telephone rounds – Manual for the conversation. 

Preparing for the  child's reaction. 

Benefits of the phone round

Field visitation

Level 3 - Unilateral Action

Vigilant Care in the care setting

Case Example in a care setting

Introduction from Kathelijne Van Dongen and Rikki Lyngdon

Recognising the difference between power struggles and the loving limit

Reflection

Are you in a power struggle or are you the anchor?

Setting the limit - step by step

Exercise: Setting a Limit with Persistence and Calmness

Margaret Gilbert explains how moving away from 'No Chatter' models new patterns of interaction for neuro diverse children

Step by step guidance for setting the Loving Limit

Shifting from Complementary Escalation to the Loving Limit

Connective Resistance 

Exercise: Preparing for a Situation Where Your Child Demands Something You Cannot Give

Limit setting for children who have experienced traumatic care

Setting limits with violent children

The assumption that being more permissive will help traumatised children

Refusing orders and breaking taboos

Limit setting in care settings

Summary 

Harmful giving 

Parents reasons to continue harmful giving. 

Harmful Giving

Daring to ask yourself questions. 

Harmful Giving Assessment

The case of Jerry

Case Example

Increasing parental presence

Supporters 

Supporters part 2

Harmful Behaviour

Exercise 

Exercises

Summary and next steps

Reparation what it does for the child 

Reparation is not punishment 

Reparation 

Reparation the process

What to do if the child still refuses

The process of reparation 

A supporter helps the child with reparation

Real life demonstration

🧩 Activity: Helping Your Child Repair Harm and Rebuild Connection

Steps to take if the child refuses to make amends

Reparation activities 

Introduction Two ways that parents may harm their child.

Why are clashes so damaging?

The principal, the child’s negative tendencies

Teacher parent clashes

Why do we need diplomacy

Teacher parent alliance 

Respect the teacher’s needs

Importance of a good beginning 

Honesty

Parent teacher diplomacy

Repairing the relationship 

Improving the relationship by one notch

Repairing your relationship with the teacher/school

Vigilant care 

Vigilant care – telling the child

Vigilant care - high level 

Vigilant Care and Punishment 

Vigilant Care

Protecting and supporting

Support VS Protection

Parent teacher meetings difficulties 

Teacher parent meeting first positive message

School meetings

<p>This advanced training offers full guidance on NVR practice and takes a deeper look at the research behind it. In this course, you'll gain the tools to confidently implement NVR in professional settings and help families implement the approach to bring about positive change in challenging situations. Upon satisfactory completion of all requirements, you will receive your certificate in NVR Practice</p>

This advanced training offers full guidance on NVR practice and takes a deeper look at the research behind it. In this course, you'll gain the tools to confidently implement NVR in professional settings and help families implement the approach to bring ab

CERTIFICATE IN NVR PRACTICE

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